A difficult woman finds her voice in periods of silence. I don’t mean when people try to break her or stop her from being her true self. It is the silence before everyone wakes or when they have gone to bed. When your shoulders drop from the responsibilities placed on you. It is the quiet, in the dark where a difficult woman finds the coals in her stomach that have become barely warm. When she sheds the responsibility placed on her by others, the coals ignite, a spark that fuels her nourishment
With screens switched off and a moment of respite, her voice can come back with a full throated roar. In the beginning it may even scare her. Loud and unyielding it demands that she be fully present and wake up to desires, she has been hiding for too long. Who is this person? Why is she so demanding and unyielding?
It may frighten others when you find your voice. They may not know what to do with this new version of you. It’s not up to them to understand but support.
So often a difficult woman is the one that has had to yell loudly and for so long because her basic needs haven’t been met. Her nervous system is in constant fight or flight mode . She is labelled ‘aggressive, demanding, entitled’ all labels designed to put her in her place.
Being soft isn’t a problem. Having to constantly talk so you can be heard and being labelled ‘too much’ is the issue. When we sit in a space with someone and truly listen (without offering advice)we see who they really are.
Till next time,
Keep being difficult
Love,
R
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